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Talking to your Child or Teenager About Their Mental Health

Talking to your child or teenager about their mental health can be a daunting task. It can be challenging to know where to start or how to approach the subject in a way that is supportive and productive. However, having an open and honest conversation about mental health can be a crucial step in helping your child or teenager manage and overcome mental health challenges. In this blog post, we will explore some tips and strategies for talking to your child or teenager about their mental health.

Safe environment

The first step in talking to your child or teenager about their mental health is to create a safe and supportive environment. This means making sure that they feel comfortable and at ease, and that they know they can talk to you about anything without fear of judgment or retribution. You can create a safe and supportive environment by being open and non-judgmental, actively listening to your child or teenager, and showing empathy and understanding.

Normalising and modeling

Another important strategy for talking to your child or teenager about their mental health is to normalize the conversation. This means making it clear that mental health is just as important as physical health, and that it's normal to experience a range of emotions and feelings. By normalizing mental health, you can help your child or teenager feel less stigmatized and more comfortable discussing their own experiences. As a parent, you can model talking openly about mental health by sharing your own experiences or feelings with your child or teenager. This can help them understand that it's okay to talk about mental health, and that it's a normal part of life.


Talking about mental health can be challenging and emotional for both you and your child or teenager. It's important to be patient and understanding throughout the conversation, and to avoid getting frustrated or dismissive. Remember that your child or teenager may not be ready to talk about everything at once, and that it may take time for them to feel comfortable opening up.

Not acting shocked

It's important to remember that your child or teenager might share something with you that you find shocking or concerning. However, it's important to remain calm and not show any signs of shock or judgment. If you react in a negative or overly emotional way, your child might feel ashamed or embarrassed, and may be less likely to open up to you in the future. Instead, take a deep breath and try to respond with empathy and understanding. Thank your child for trusting you with this information and reassure them that you are there to support them through whatever they are going through. If you are struggling to manage your own emotions, take some time to process your feelings and seek support from a trusted friend or therapist. Remember that your child's mental health is the most important thing, and creating a safe and supportive environment is key to helping them navigate their challenges.

Communication cards and code words

Using communication cards and code words can be a helpful tool for parents when talking to their child about their mental health. Communication cards are cards with different emotions or feelings written on them, and the child can point to the card that best represents how they are feeling. Code words are words that the child can use to let their parent know that they need to talk about their mental health without having to say it out loud in front of others. This can help the child feel more comfortable and less embarrassed about their struggles. It's important for parents to create a safe and open environment for their child to discuss their mental health, and using tools like communication cards and code words can be a helpful way to facilitate those conversations.

Validation when your child's fears are irrational

Validating your child's fears and feelings is an important part of supporting their mental health. This means acknowledging and accepting their emotions, even if they seem irrational or illogical. If your child has a phobia or fear that you know is irrational, it's important to avoid dismissing their feelings or trying to convince them that their fear is unfounded. Instead, try to validate their anxiety by saying things like, "I understand that this is really scary for you," or "It's okay to feel afraid even if it doesn't make sense to me." Validating their emotions can help your child feel heard and understood, which can make them more likely to open up and seek help when they need it.

Validation when your child is depressed

If you notice that your child is having trouble getting out of bed or taking care of themselves, it's important to approach the situation with compassion and patience. Shouting or getting angry at them is unlikely to be helpful and may even make the situation worse. Instead, try to approach your child with empathy and ask them how they are feeling. You can offer to help them come up with a plan to take small steps towards self-care, such as setting a goal to take a shower every other day or going for a short walk outside. Let them know that you are there to support them and that their feelings are valid, even if you don't completely understand them. Remember, depression can be overwhelming, and it's important to be patient and supportive as your child works through their struggles.

In conclusion, having open and honest conversations with your child or teenager about their mental health is crucial for their well-being. It can help them feel heard, understood, and supported, which can in turn reduce their anxiety and promote better mental health outcomes. Remember to approach these conversations with empathy, validation, and a willingness to listen without judgment. Model self-compassion and open communication about mental health in your family to help normalize these conversations and reduce stigma. If your child is struggling with mental health issues, consider seeking professional support from a therapist who specializes in child CBT. At our child CBT therapy practice, we offer a safe and supportive space for children and teenagers to work through their mental health challenges and build resilience. Let's work together to prioritize our children's mental health and well-being.

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